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Love the Initiator

There exists a group of people who seem to be born initiators. They start stuff. They thrive on connection and fun and always have a great idea how to bring people together. They stand up at the end of a meeting and say, “Let’s meet for a beer at Brewdogs,” or “Come by on Saturday and I’ll grill chicken and corn-on-the-cob. Bring your wife, kids and dog.” Initiators offer our world an opportunity to gather, connect, share stories, laugh and have fellowship.

Initiators need support. Yes, they need those of us standing on the sidelines to show up. I mean, how many times will they keep inviting if we don’t join their party and participate? Without initiators we could find ourselves very alone.

A large part of a healthy community is connection and when the largest percentage of a crowd does not initiate, happenings fall on the shoulders of the small group of people who will keep asking. Until they don’t. Until the invite has received the silent treatment too many times.

I send out a plea of support for the initiator! Just say YES! Show up, even for a little bit, tell them “thank-you”, offer to help, offer your place for the next gathering even if it doesn’t fit the perfection model. As you consider the excuse that seems real (I am busy, the drive home is too long, that weird neighbor might show up, my house is a mess, I can’t cook my way out of a paper bag, I am shy) get over it and just show up! It might be awkward and yet, that is how we meet neighbors, connect with co-workers, become friends.

Say Yes! Initiators make the world go-round.

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